Perched On A Shoulder

                                                        

Every Friday morning, I spend 3 to 4 hours volunteering at a vision rehabilitation center located in downtown Fort Lauderdale. People who are blind or visually impaired constitute the bulk of their clients and surprisingly, a good portion of their staff as well. Although most of the time I help as a receptionist clerk at the front desk, I have had the pleasure of meeting some of the happiest people I've seen in a very long time. It's quite the experience during every conversation. The fact that they cannot see allows them to describe memories, people, and past events in a very charismatic way. Their storytelling is artistic and almost theatrical in nature. I can almost vividly see the roadtrips they describe, the places they've traveled to, the person who they fell in love with, their ideas of a sci-fi future world, their mistakes, regrets, and advice...all painted on a mental canvas as if Da Vinci's soul had given them sight.

Then there is Mr. Raspberry, a former preacher who became blind three years ago. Usually, you can find him here bright and early, sometimes two to three hours before an event. If he is not snoring away on the white couch across the front desk, he is sure to tell another story. The rehabilitation center is located on Sistrunk next to the railroad tracks. When a train came roaring through this past Friday morning, I mentioned to him how I used to love seeing them pass by as a child.

Boom. He wakes up and not to my surprise, he begins another story...

"Back in 82', I had the opportunity of taking a train across the country. We started in New York and headed west along the great continental divide. We went to Washington State, California, Oklahoma, Wyoming, and circled all the way back to New York...The most beautiful places were Oklahoma, Texas, and Wyoming. You can see the mountains, hills, and deserts...absolutely beautiful...absolutely serene...I went by myself. Though I'm sure it would have been more fun with a group, exploring by yourself is a totally different experience. We stopped in every major city, partied downtown, went back to the train and knocked out. The best thing was that when you wake up, you're already in route to a different city...it was a two month trip and it only cost me $989.00...easily one the best things I ever did in my life...glad I did it while I still had sight."

After about 20 minutes, he realizes the Book Club Meeting, the event he originally came here for, had already started. He gets up and slowly walks his way towards the dining room, hands reaching for the wall for guidance.

It amazes me every time. This place. These people. You'd think that it would be a pity party 24/7, but it is quite the opposite.  It's been a real humbling experience.  Most of society, including myself, have placed an unfair stigma on blind folks. The stigma that people with a walking stick are sad, helpless, and a burden to the rest of us.  In actuality, these people have learned to persevere.  They are the proud product of what this rehabilitation center strives to do throughout the community. They are independent and a family to each other. Most importantly, they are happy and in fact, happier than most people I know with sight.  Mr. Raspberry is just one story amongst the many I have heard and have yet to hear.  I'm fortunate to who have encountered this organization as it is simply more justification on why I am pursuing the ultimate goal. The greatest lesson to be learned here is that happiness is a choice, a choice made against the persuasion of circumstance.  Sight is a strength in the majority of cases, but in many ways a weakness here at the rehab center. You learn to live with more when you are without. And when you are without, not even sight, not hearing, and not touch can help you reach your promise land.  It is a personal journey where only hearts sing a motivational tune and your mind be the opera house. About a month ago, there was a box of donated books sitting under the front desk. I picked one up and read the first 23 pages.

I'll leave you with a paragraph that has stuck with me since:

"Happiness is a butterfly-the more you chase it, the more it flies away from you and hides.  But stop chasing it, put away your net and busy yourself with other, more productive things than the pursuit of personal happiness, and it will sneak up on you from behind and perch on your shoulder." 

God bless, good health, good style
Life is always free...with a smile :)

-Jeff Villena

 

Man In the Mirror

You see...me and you are cut from different fabric. Frankly, you ain't shit. If our lives were to be the NBA, the only thing we'd have in common would be the fact we play the same sport. We shoot at different baskets. My aim is different. Your aim is missing. Bring your A game,player, because if you don't, someone else will. You think you're the only motherfucker with problems? Struggle sees no skin color, creed, location, or whatever god you believe in. Hustle rewards those who endure. There are 7.7 billion people on this earth with more heart and fight to get what's theirs. You still ain't doing nothing except breathing and supplying carbon dioxide to plants and trees who are probably working harder than you. And them niggas don't even move. You're kind of like that equation in freshmen physics: U = mgh. You're nothing, but POTENTIAL ENERGY. You're at the top baby. The higher you are, the more potential to convert yourself to KINETIC ENERGY, right? You studied that shit. Get it moving. So why are you hesitating? Oh you're back hurts?  I thought you pledged homie.

"Excuses are tools of the incompetent, based upon mountains of nothingness. Those who use them rarely succeed and DIE."

Listen, you're in your twenties. They say this is the most crucial time of your life. Unfortunately, there are those who prioritize buying expensive ass clothes and the hottest shoes. You keep it simple.  There are those who are willing to memorize the date of a Jordan release, but can't remember the last thing they learned in school. You, my friend, think different. You see shit differently. You want more because there is a world beyond your doormat. You want more because you haven't made it yet. I mean, you haven't TRULY made it yet. Be the man when you are legit. There's no time for BS. No time to mingle with a mami's heart just yet. Save your mind, your heart, and your soul elsewhere.

You know that feeling when you see your peers have made it and you're not there with them? Remember that and let it burn inside. No more excuses man. What are you scared for?

GO AND GET YOURS!

*turns away from mirror*

Invisible For A Reason

 Invisible For A Reason

I guess it’s something like a guardian angel.  I believe someone is always looking out for you in places or people you least expect. And when from those who you least expect…oh the joy within the element of surprise, ay?

Long ago, I used to believe in destiny, fate, or whatever romanticism you call it.  But like the transformation of food to brown matter, shit happens. Whether it is through heart break, failure, or health issues, as you and I know, events like these change us.  Or at least, that’s the goal. For me, my outlook on life grew tainted a bit.  I lost most of my faith.  I felt that I was on my own. So I did shit on my own. It may have worked for several years, but I found myself in a deeper hole again.  When nothing worked, it was as if some invisible force allowed me to kneel and pray.  Foreign as this gesture may be, it was the first time in a long time that I knelt, prayed, and meant it. Now I’m not here to get all spiritual with you or tackle religion, but since that day, things slowly, but surely got better.

More recently, I’ve been witnessed to my own answered prayers, but more importantly to the success of close friends, fraternity brothers, and people that I care about.  It’s crazy how it all just “works out.”  Like I said earlier, I used to believe in destiny, fate, or what have you.  To me, it was all just a chain of well executed events. Deep down inside, I knew it was something more. Now more than ever, I’m starting to believe again. Maybe we all do have guardian angels that listen to prayers.  And maybe these angels do deliver them carefully to the heavens. We may not see whoever is up there. We may not see who our guardian angel is. But that’s the whole point I guess…to take that leap of faith…to believe that these chains of well executed events were indeed orchestrated by an invisible God-like symphony. You never know in what form of motivation or answered prayer that “thing” you’ve needed to hear just might be in. Just believe.

It’s an uphill climb.

No need to look back because I’m climbing right with you.

-Jeff

Detours & Knowledge

  

Last night

The moment we walked into this Pakistani / Indian restaurant, our skepticism grew. The vibe was somewhere between a hole in the wall joint and a moms & pops store. The pink and red paint started to fade on the wall. The floor could use a scrubbing session. On the brink of leaving, we were lured back in with the sight of a family, a beautiful family at that. If they're eating here, then there must be an ounce of goodness left somewhere hidden within the uncertainty of our doubts. We ordered. "It'll take 10-15mins.", said the cashier who also happened to be the chef. Upon the wait, a light skinned thick Bahamian woman walked towards us and offered a basket of what seemed to be the Pakistani/Indian version of tortilla chips.

Peppery and spicy.

After a few minutes of awkward silence, my pops began to small talk with her. She had blue eyes, which caught me off guard. Very alluring I must say. She spoke perfect English with a slight hint of her Caribbean ancestry. She opens up. Within the next few minutes, I learned that she is thirty-four years old with a fifteen year old son who aspires to be a doctor. Apparently, she comes from a very athletic family, as she bragged on and on about her supposed family members currently in the NFL, NBA, & MLB.  Just when I was about to mute her from my listening process, she goes, "Oh and I love to write poetry." And just like that, my attention was grabbed.  I asked if she does spoken word.

She said yes.

I said word.  

I shot my head up in passive excitement & asked her to recite something. The shyness of her tone was quickly overrun by a confidence that blossomed the deeper she terrained through her poem.

It was about love.

It was about growing old.

It was about sacrifice.

Maybe it was those damn blue angelic eyes that entrapped me in a daze. Or it could’ve been the content of her art. Or the genuine vibe I felt after she finished, kind of like a good after taste.  I felt bewitched. Locked in. Asked her how long she had been writing, she replied, “2 years.”  It was then that I learned 2 years ago she was involved in an automobile accident that left her disabled. She couldn't finish college because she was no longer able to concentrate on school work due to her altered neuronal and muscular function capabilities.  Eventually, I leaned in a little closer and almost to the edge of my seat. She states, “When I was in the hospital, I asked the nurses everyday for a pen and piece of paper to write on. That's all I ever did there. I wrote poetry. Now, I can't stop writing because since my mind is messed up, I write from the heart and never encountered writers block. If you think too much, you'll get stuck. Just do."  I was immediately taken back by that. Overcome by a revelation of sorts from such a simple statement.  She continued a little more with her story before the food finally came out. As we were paying, she bid us a quick farewell and walked back into the kitchen. I learned that she is a waitress at the restaurant. A waitress not by choice, but by circumstance. We leave and realize that we never asked for her name.

It doesn't matter and it never will. 

I write this because I was so inspired by her story even with the short duration of our encounter.  Within ten minutes, her story spoke eons. It was a story of a woman who discovers a gift amidst of the traumatic nature of an accident, a mother of an aspiring teenager, a warrior who is still battling her way up to happiness, and an artist who paints a better picture for herself through heart and not the mind.  My world had expanded exponentially.

More enlightened.

More humbled.  

See ten minutes prior, we were starving, on the road and our hunger pains grew stronger at the sight of the restaurant. Hesitant to deviate from the original plan of going to Doris Market to buy food, we felt the urge to try something new. Ten minutes later, we were satisfied. If we didn't take this detour, we'd remain hungry. Not for the beef kabobs and warm naan, but for the mental nourishment we just received. I pray for this waitress and may she continue to bless the world with her poetry.  After all, we did find more than an ounce of goodness.  The food was good too.

Take a detour, listen to a new song.

You might learn something from the start.

When life trifles with your mind, you know to speak from the heart.

And if you speak from the heart, you can never go wrong...

-Jeff